Your handwriting has a attribute feel and appear. It might be small and constricted, huge and daring, or someplace in between. Equally, most of your set off reactions will look considerably just like each other and can come up from the identical core worry (like worry of rejection, abandonment, not being ok, not being heard, and so forth).
Our set off signature is an expression of our attachment style. If we now have a preoccupied/anxious attachment model, we usually tend to pursue, prod, query, argue, problem, or assault once we get triggered. If we now have a extra avoidant attachment model, we are likely to shut down, withdraw, defend, clarify, choose silently, or attempt to sort things once we are triggered. Figuring out your distinctive set off signature helps you rapidly acknowledge the truth that you’re getting triggered. This can be a huge step towards set off mastery.
By the point you start to acknowledge what your set off reactions appear to be and really feel like, you have already got some means to note and take possession of the truth that you generally get triggered. That is a part of the admitting and accepting step. However noticing a set off response whereas within the midst of being reactive just isn’t straightforward! If you find yourself triggered, your means to note tends to go offline. That is why it’s essential to observe pausing. That is the subsequent step.